Chandigarh: At the age of 21, Pooja Thakur, and her two children were thrown out of the house which she shared with her in-laws just because her husband died of HIV and she too was HIV positive. “I got married, when I was 14-years-old and at 17, I gave birth to my first son, till then I never knew that life had such harsh plans for me. In 2005 my husband and I as well as our two sons were detected with HIV and from then, life became a struggle for us. In the same year, I lost my husband and went back to my in-laws’ house, but instead of getting any sympathy for my loss, they physically abused me and threw me out,” shared an emotional Pooja. “I have three sons; two of them are HIV positive.
Only 13 days after my husband passed away, my in-laws’ fought with me to keep my youngest son with them as he was not suffering from the disease, but then after a long fight, I got him back and now all four of us have the same aim of spending the rest of our lives in working for the well-being of others,” added Pooja. Presently, Pooja is Chandigarh Network of People Living with HIV/AIDS president, and is helping numerous people living with the social stigma of being HIV positive. “I lost the love of my life in 2005, almost 12 years have passed but I can’t call myself a widow, as he is always around me and supporting me. When my husband and I were diagnosed with HIV, we always had the dream of serving people like us and I feel so happy and proud to be a part of Chandigarh Network of People Living with HIV/AIDS which has given me an opportunity to fulfill my husband’s dream, says a strong Meena, who also lost her husband because of HIV. “When my husband passed away, the first year I always thought that I should have died with him as I was ousted from family and society.
Life had become meaningless for me, but then I realised that I should do something for the society so that I can set an example for others,” says 80-year-old Dulari Devi, who donates one third of her pension for the weddings of poor girls. “Widowhood certainly comes as a struggle. For some time, life becomes a tough nut to crack after the demise of our life partner but it all depends upon you how you want to take the life. Crying and living in depression is no solution, rather one should determine to do something for the well-being of the society,” shares Indra Rana, physical education teacher at GMSSS, 10 Chandigarh. Meanwhile, besides the fact that every year June 23 is observed as the International Widow’s Day as a day of action to address the poverty and injustice faced by millions of widows and their dependants in many countries, still many shares the fate of suffering in isolation, injustice and obscurity!
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