The concept of the arranged marriages has changed. As now from past few years, the families in the Ludhiana are getting the medical tests of the boys and girls done before fixing marriage in order to avoid any marital disputes after marriage due to undeclared health problems by anyone. As in the past either of the partners lost his or her life due to the serious ailments, which their partner was suffering. Moreover number of divorce cases is being filed in the courts these days due to the undeclared serious health problems being faced by either of the partner even before wedding. According to the doctors and people main reason behind getting the medical tests done before marriage is to know HIV status, drug addiction status, uterus status and any other serious ailment, which could affect the life of other partner. Earlier there were very few cases of any blood test checkups for the matrimonial purposes as only highly educated class use to get it done. But now trend is catching up fast among all the sections of society mainly in the rural area. The awareness of such things on social media, government advertisements, educational institutes and seminars to start a relationship of life in a healthy manner with healthy partner.
Even the doctors in their social lectures advice the public to have thorough check up of their partners before tying a knot with anyone mainly in arrange marriages as many people don’t disclose their medical problems in front of the other family. Not only boys family, these days even girls family have started asking for medical test before finalizing the marriage as medical frauds in marriages have increased. And around fifty percent divorce cases have the basis of medical cheating by either of the party such as either of the partner has the problem of depression, infertility etc.With cities this trend has accelerated in the rural areas of Punjab due to existence of drug addiction menace among the youth. As the boys are more prone to drugs in the rural areas than girls, that’s why the parents of girls remain worried in the rural areas before fixing the marriage of their girl. Now the family members in the rural area have started getting the medical test of the boys done before saying final yes to the boy’s family. Harmeet Kaur (name change) from village Kumbkalan in the district Ludhiana said, “We have grown up our daughters with a great care as we have two daughters only. As everyone knows the youth of today is involved in the drugs so before fixing the marriage of my daughter we put a demand of getting boys medical test done from their own family doctor to clear our doubt. Even we asked boys family they can get their daughters medical test done. When we found medical reports satisfactory only than we have finalized our daughter wedding.”
Dr Aarti Tuli, a renowned gynecologist of Ludhiana city when asked about this emerging trend voiced, “Both partners getting the blood test are absolutely must. If boys or girls any family feels offended as still it goes against traditions in the India, help by telling them that you are convinced about getting it done yourself too. But person going through an arranged marriage would have courage to insist on such test isn’t it better to be safe than sorry for marrying person who can risk your own life also. The good health of the partner is as important as taking a breath in life. ”She further told that boy’s family usually asks for tests by which they should get to know that there would not be any problem in pregnancy later to girl. This trend has grown up in the past few years. There are cases where, out of hesitation, marriages have taken place without such insistence, based solely on goodwill of the family. The boys and girls have been discovered to be HIV-positive later who finishes life of partner also.” Even female families should get medical tests of boys done,” she added. But in past few months they have received cases where the girl’s families from urban and rural both get tests done mainly to know about drug addiction. Dr. Jaswinder Singh, a private practioner at village Ladian in district Ludhiana said, “Many people visit out clinic when the marriage of their daughter is to be fixed. As in the villages we know almost each family as everyone comes to the doctors for any kind of problem so they come to ask us whether the concerned boy is fine in health ways. Does he take drugs or not, is his medical history fine. So we tell them as much we know and suggest them to get medical test of both boys and girls done to clear doubt.” Saroj Sharma, a girl from village Goraya whose marriage has been fixed with NRI said, “We have got the medical history and marital status of boy checked. Though they found it derogatory when we asked to get the medical tests done but when we made them understand why they are asking so they agreed. I have also got my medical test done. I think people should not hesitate on it as it’s a matter of life.”
In fact medical fraternity feels that like registration of marriage, before marriage with age restrictions, blood test should be made compulsory for the couples before marriage so that backward families should not have any problem in getting their children go through medical test for matrimonial purpose. However, in cities like Delhi and Mumbai, today, more boys and girls are choosing to go together to clinic and get the test done before marriage. Some experts advise on making thalassemia test mandatory also before marriage too, for couples in high-incidence states, on lines of the Goa Government’s plan for compulsory pre-matrimony HIV screening and other medical tests for healthy state future.
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