Every relationship starts from a brief introduction. How to introduce is what we need to know? Is word present more appropriate than the word introduce? Of course, present is somewhat more appropriate than the word introduce, but introduce is equally proper as “Mr. Professor, may I present Professor Mahesh?”
A younger person is generally introduced to an older, but a gentleman is always presented to a lady. In case of a younger member of the family, he is introduced to a visitor, “Mr Rakesh, my son Aditya.” Take note, no woman is ever presented to a man, except to the highest of dignitaries like the Indian Prime Minister, US President or someone standing high in religious order. The correct introduction is:
“Mr Prime Minister, I have the honor to present Capt. Shivani.” If the Prime Minister offers his hand one should give his hand immediately honoring the regard. In Christianity a person who is not a Catholic behaves in the same manner as he would to a king. A Roman Catholic drops on the right knee, places the right hand, palm down, under the cardinal’s extended hand and kisses his ring. A woman is at all times presented to archbishops.
Whenever two strangers or individuals are introduced, introduction is just pronouncing of two names: “Mr Raghav, Mr Norris.” Rise and fall of tone also gives a message in such introductions. If both the names have been said in the same tone of voice, it is not apparently clear who is introduced to whom. Accentuating the more important person’s name, gives one more importance and it becomes clear as to who is being introduced. The more important name is said with slightly rising inflection. Other one is a mere statement of fact.
Always give a pause between what makes a parenthesis while speaking of one’s husband or daughter, “My daughter……..(pause)Ms Richa.” Formally, a man introduces another man to his wife, “Mr. Raman, may I present you to my wife?” Here, you can also say, “Mr Raman, I should like to introduce you to my wife.” This seems more courteous and appropriate. While introducing one’s wife to an old friend one gets more informal as “ Kris, I want you to meet my wife.”
A formal appropriate introduction expresses a warmth and charm that most introductions lack. Just like a child introducing his classmate to his mother could say,” Mother, this is her.” Instead of saying formally ,” Mother, this is Ms Richa.” While replying to an introduction under all possible circumstances one should say,” How do you do?” It should be said casually and coolly, and pronunciation may vary. “How do you do?” “How d’you do?”
How d’you doo-oo?” This may help in striking a conversation. Those who are fond of introducing people to one another must take note that at a large gathering one should not introduce people to one another in large numbers. Also, a newly arriving person is not introduced to one leaving the venue. Interrupting a conversation between two persons to introduce someone is most inappropriate. (Ref. Emily Post: Etiquette, Tenth Edition)
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